When a girl says she likes you but wants to take it slow and needs time to herself how much time does she need and how long should one hold out before moving on?

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when a girl tell you she likes you but wants time to herself.. well.. it is time for you to move on! don't let her play with your mind, she is saying this to keep you around just incase she feels lonely... if she says she loves you, but need time to think.. then yes wait for her.. give her time to think..

anyway.. don't waste your time with a girl who's not in love with you..

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In girl land, that means, "I like you, but not enough to move forward. I want to see what else is available while I have you waiting on the sidelines. I will date you every once in a while(while you pay) to keep you interested, but I have no intention of ever becoming serious." You should never wait. She is up to no good. Dump her. Stop taking her calls. After time, she will be crazy for you, and it's up to you if you want to see her again.

UNLESS; she has some issues like childhood trauma, than she needs to be honest and tell you the truth.

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No that doesn't have to mean that she doesn't want to move forward. She could have strong feelings for you but be unsure if she is stable enough to be in a relationship at the moment, She may have feelings for you but she may be wanting to fix herself a little bit before she goes into anything serious, or she may be scared, ask. If you really want to be with this girl then you can wait, if you're serious about wanting to be with her. You never know, this may be something worth the wait.

Kacer

I'm in sorda the same situation. Except I'm the female and he's the male. We broke up about a month and half ago. He just broke up with me for no reason. And the other night I got drunk and we seen each other. Then yesterday we talked, and he says it's not me. He needs time to think because he's got alot on his mind. I was all over him when I was drunk and he respected me enough not to do anything. Yesterday was a really good conversation because he said he still wanted to see me, but I think we rushed into things, and I think that's what happens when it's too fast for someone. I think maybe it scared him that I was crazy about him. Given time, we'll probably be together. I think with a girl it probably works the same way. Some people wanna be single for a while, and some people need time to think. I think there's hope. Whatever God wants for you!! Good luck!!

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I'm with you Kacer. I think it all depends how you really feel about her. I find myself in a similar situation. I know that the girl is digging me, and I know there is absolutely nobody else.. but she still says she needs time to herself. She doesn't want to move forward. I think you have to forget about her for a while, and make her miss you. Don't sit around and wait; live your life and do other things. If you really want to be serious, stop the sex too. I know it's gonna be tough, but only then I think you will find out what her true intentions are. Whatever you do don't chase her! I'm trying this out now.. I'll let you know how it works out.

I believe if she really does like you, she will be back. If not, then you were better off letting her go to begin with.

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